Hair SplittingĀ 


Does anyone else get tired of splitting hairs? Do you feel that you have to watch every single word you say? 
Sometimes I do grow weary in this area. Seems to be an over abundance of people feeling the need to correct and be correct. Now notice I didn’t say corrected. I said be correct. It’s an epidemic lately.  
So what drives a human being to feel compelled to correct others and prove themselves correct? Pride. Arrogance. Self. All which the Bible says “comes before the fall”! I’m not referring to preaching the good news or a solid sermon on a Sunday. I’m talking about knit picking or what is referred to as splitting hairs. 
I am also fully aware that we are to confess Gods word over our lives and the lives of others. Colossians 4:6 says “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” But there is still a difference from literally knit picking and splitting hairs. 
I personally want to walk in freedom from a religious mindset that causes me to feel the pressure of having to work for what Jesus paid for in full, with His own life mind you and not worry that I didn’t say something correctly in someone’s else’s eyes šŸ‘€ and then be corrected over the silliest things.  
If I have ever done that to you, I humbly ask your forgiveness – because whom the Son set free is free indeed. I am so thankful that I don’t feel that pressure anymore and that I don’t have to walk on egg shells feeling like if I am not speaking Christianese perfectly that I will burn in Hell. I KNOW I am blessed and highly favored- I KNOW how God feels about me and I KNOW who I am called to be in His Kingdom.  
It is my heart felt desire that you may also know all of the above and I’m committed to helping you come into that knowledge without causing you to feel like you must be perfectly correct at all times or you’ll be corrected.  
Romans 5:8
“But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.”

Galatians 3:13
“But Christ has rescued us from the curse pronounced by the law. When he was hung on the cross, he took upon himself the curse for our wrongdoing. For it is written in the Scriptures, “Cursed is everyone who is hung on a tree.”

Love you all – eternally
PMel

Love is the answer.Ā 


Ever met a “Life Thwarter?” I’m sure you have. It’s the opposite of a “Life Enhancer” or the “Life Giver”. A Life Thwarter is someone in your life who takes advantage of your kindness, thinks they’re duping you or deliberately tries to decieve you. What you do in those situations can either bring blessings or pain into your life. God would have you bring blessing. So, the first thing you do is release yourself. You’re not the one with the problem and you must forgive them and then turn the tables by showing love. 
Matthew 5:44 says “44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” because love conquers all. 

We have been called to be like Jesus and Paul expresses this when he says in Galations 5 that we are to serve one another humbly by keeping Christ’s commandment to love your neighbor as yourself; not to bite and devour one another as to not be destroyed. 

(paraphrased). Love is the answer people!! Have you loved your enemies today???

More RamblingsĀ 

I want to share my heart in saying that it’s relieving to say I’m not perfect. I am human. I make mistakes and in gripping and owning that piece of truth I can also safely say that I am a girl who needs her Savior – Jesus.                                                                             I’ve never been driven to be perfect as if anyone could. I’ve never tried to compete or one up another person. I’ve always owned my flaws and only desired to be treated Fairly and with respect. My heart has always rejoiced with the successes of others and grieved with those who have lost. I WANT to give honor and I WILL always do so. 

I am shattered and broken over the selfish focus of those who don’t even have a clue that they are selfish. But at the same time I have deeply painful compassion for those blindly selfish people – because they know not what they do. I always seem to find myself reaching out with genuine concern because I truly want to know if someone is ok and walk away having not been asked in return. 

But my heart is to live a life based on Romans 12:9-21 “The Mark of a True Christian”. 
9Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
Genuine – Good – Love – Honor  
What if we spent our time genuinely doing good by striving to outdo one another in love and honor. The result would be astounding, life changing, radical explosive transformation. What are we waiting for? 
Further in the text it reads “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all”
There’s that word again – Honorable. 

Honor – Peace

So choosing to give honor will lead you to peace. Sounds like a great life to me! A life lived in Christ were we experience genuine goodness and peace – how? By outdoing one another in love and honor. It’s a choice that HS enables us to make and put into action. 
We need a love and honor invasion!!! Will you choose to join the effort? It will rock your world and the world of those around you! 

Our Help Comes From the Lord

But he said to me, ā€œMy grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.ā€ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me” 2 Corinthians 12:9.                                                 

 This seems to be my life verse as of late. I am feeling the heaviness of the load that I’m carrying. Have you ever needed a break so badly and you sincerely cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel? I am weak!!! I’m screaming it because I need the power of Christ to rest upon me.  
The greatest part is it’s the truth. The load that you are carrying is not yours to keep. Psalms 55:22 says “Give your burdens to the LORD, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.” His power will sustain us – we can do nothing within our own strength that will in any way enable us to walk away from what it accomplishes without it depleting us of our “own” strength or peace.  Our help comes from the Lord. 

I think the evidence of this truth is the ease with which we accomplish anything. If your accomplishments flows out with ease, I’d say you are going with God – if an internal fight ensues, maybe there’s a bit of you left in the fight. The battle belongs to the Lord. We rest in Him and go with the flow of the Holy Spirit and His will is accomplished- peace and rest wins!  

Forgiven Much-Love Much

To whom has been forgiven much- loves much. 

The account of the sinful woman in Luke 7 who washed Jesus’ feet with her tears is the example I hold fast to when the enemy tries to tell me that I’ve sinned too much to fulfill the call on my life. I have ran from God at times in my life and made mistakes and really I have screwed up royally in ways. It’s the truth. I have hurt people both knowingly and unknowingly. But I can also say that my heart was never to maliciously harm another. However, God always held me accountable and I have truly repented of my sins. Repent defined as “turning from my sins-never returning”. 

People are a harder sell. I have encountered those who do not intend to ever let me forget my sins. Thankfully they are not Jesus. I don’t believe they understand that they hold no power and really their actions are a slap in the face of Christ who died for me. I am fully aware of these things and make it an effort to love and forgive those who cannot move forward in forgiveness or even acknowledge their own sinful ways. What I won’t allow is for it to hold me back. 
I’ve been called for longer than I can remember. I do not take lightly the office with which I now stand and I most definitely do not forget the depth which I have been forgiven. 
I now have the ability to love on a gargantuan level. Spit at me-I love you. Gossip about me-I love you. Flip me the bird-I love you. Dirty look me-I love you. Think higher of yourself than me-I love you and that’s even cool with me because I would prefer to live the example found in Philippians 2:3-4 that says “3 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, 4 not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the other.”
Not only am I alright with it, I also remember being you. I will never forget how much I have been forgiven or where I came from. Humility is never forgetting and always remembering you’re a sinner who needs a Savior. 
Luke 7:47 “47 Therefore I say to you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven, for she loved much. But to whom little is forgiven, the same loves little.ā€

I’ll Fix ItĀ 

It’s the most difficult feeling when you desperately want to fix “it” and you know you cannot. Today was that kind of day. Last semester I took my first unit of CPE. (Clinical Pastoral Education). My supervisor narrowed down my learning goals into one specific learning goal that hinged around a question. “Why do I think I must be the one to fix it?”                       
When any person deems themselves the “fix it” person, they leave themselves unbridled in their ability to discern boundaries thus might possibly loose sight of what is actually theirs to fix. What a set up for a let down when that happens. Errors are sure to happen when boundaries are crossed and then you cannot be of proper support or help because your out of balance by making promises you cannot keep. 
It’s in our nature to want to help others not hurt and to take away their pain (fix it). However, no one learns from something they don’t put their own effort into. A person must choose for themselves to make change. Once they do, there is a green light to walk with them through there effort to make the change. Your role would be more of a calming wise presence that translates into strength. A representative of Christ who is the fixer. 
I still have days that I want to “fix it”. Today was one of those days. It’s painful. I have learned deep valuable lessons in making room for others to err, fall down and get up. As they learn from their mistakes, I am there to brush them off and walk along there journey. It’s an honor you know!  
James 1:2-4 “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”
Photo courtesy of Tom Rice

More important others!

We are given a gift from God in the honor of standing with someone in all seasons of their lives.  Each of us were given great responsibility by the Father in caring for others. Each of us are the caretaker of someone. We are each important to someone else and there are those whom are important to us.  If you think about it, it’s a constant forward flow of positive reinforcement of being people builders. 

In reading Romans 12:9-21, I think my favorite part of the passage is verse 15. “To rejoice with those who rejoice.”      The best part of being a loving Christian is celebrating with our important people in their blessings, triumphs and victories. It’s awesome to watch others grow and be thankful for them and with them. Part of loving someone in Christ’s pure love is our genuine expression of being happy for others as they are successfully being blessed in their lives through Christ. It is evidence of one of my favorite things to strive to do- show honor. No one is perfect, certainly not me, but it sure is my hearts desire to live a lifestyle that Romans 12:9-21 exhibits. 

Blessings, Pastor Mel

Romans 12:9-21 “Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.
14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, ā€œVengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.ā€ 20 To the contrary, ā€œif your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.ā€ 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

Ask questions and Listen


Just because you think you are right about something does not mean that you are right. Just because you think someone else is wrong does not mean you are right. The number one thing I have learned in the past 6 months is that you cannot assume or perceive that you have all of the info or the whole story or even the correct answer to a situation or about another person -AND- the only way you will have all the info about any situation or any person is to stop passing judgement- stop making assumptions – stop talking long enough to listen. How can anyone learn anything if they won’t ask questions and listen. I’m not necessarily talking about listening with your ears- but rather listening with your heart.  
I personally have been making great strides to not judge and not perceive without getting all the info. Doing this removes all opportunity for the enemy to conjure up untruths and lies that cause frustration and division. I am personally tired of this happening to me – which sadly has been all to often and I am striving to do my best to not do this to another.  
Nobody is always right. Nobody. It’s time to get rid of a contentious spirit and be teachable, be pliable and adaptable. If you are a Christian, the word is full of text about passing judgment-assumption-contention and the division that it causes. Even if you aren’t a Christian, it’s still a good moral code to follow.  
Simply- shut off the path to judgement and assumption-ask for more info and listen. You WILL often discover that things are not as though they appear. Most always there are things going on behind the scenes of people circumstances and lives that you are not privy to and you are only witnessing a reaction to those circumstances.  

Proverbs 18:2 ESV “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.”
Instead 1 Corinthians 13:7 (ESV) says that “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 
“If others tell us something we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something and we don’t understand we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.”
Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

New Years ResolutionĀ 


How is your New year beginning?  I know that it is our tradition to set New Years resolutions and set goals that will change our lives for the better. I didn’t do that this year. Actually I haven’t set a New Years resolution for some time now.  Any resolution (change) I might ever embrace comes through my confidence in Christ as He works out the details of my life. 

I think that change happens when we are honest with ourselves and recognize that we are a people who needs a Savior. Life can be tough sometimes and having Jesus there to help us through will change our ability to cope and our perspective to see the good in life instead of focusing on what might be tough. 

I am personally grateful for positive thoughts and I have many things to be grateful for. So I will simply say that I am counting each tiny blessing in my life. There are truly so many. I have a peaceful spirit and a happy heart. I am confident in who I am in Christ and how He feels about me.  

When I struggle in my humanness, it’s never for long because He (Jesus) is quick to remind me of His complete love for me period. Romans 8:37 reads “No in all these things we are made more than conquerors through HIM who LOVES us.” It’s always been that way for me. Listen! God is no respecter of persons (Acts 10:34) so having this kind of confidence and peace is not exclusively mine – It’s for everyone who wants it and trusts in Jesus.  

The scripture found in Psalms 34:1 reads “I will bless the Lord at all times, His praise is continuously in my mouth” Because my dry seasons are never long, He quickly brings provision into my life and I know it! Always. Remember that in Philippians 4:19 it says “God shall supply all my needs according to His riches in glory through Christ Jesus”. Supply is PROVISION!  

My scriptural advice to anyone who will listen is to remember that God is for you, never against you. (Romans 8:31) Romans 8:28 reads “God works all things for the good to those who love Him and are called according to His purpose” – That is YOU! Take ownership of it and praise Him in all things – Continuously!!  
~ Pastor Mel

Pleasing Who?

Sometimes we can do our very best and it will not matter to certain people. They do not have the capability to see past themselves and definitely cannot see through the eyes of Christ. 

I know from HUGE experience that it hurts. But let that hurt drive you to compassionately hurt for those who live in such a small world where only they exist. 

Ephesians 4:32 “Be kind to one another, tender-hearted, forgiving each other, just as God in Christ also has forgiven you.”

One must remember that you cannot please everyone. Sometimes it matters not what you say or do, judgement has already been passed. In those moments you can choose to not receive condemnation but rather know that ultimately God is who you strive to please. In the larger picture God is the ultimate authority. Your attitude now will dictate the outcome. Choose peace. Have compassion for those you know you cannot please for it is likely they have no peace at all.

Matthew 5:44- But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;